When I was preparing my previous article on Overlook Birth Trauma, immediately a thought emerged to invite an “Insider”- Ms Gladys Lee, a Certified Spiritual Rebirthing/Breathworker to uncover how human behave in relation to how we were born. Knowing that she has a hectic schedule but still I asked her to write an article in my blog and I was thrilled when she agreed to my invitation. Ms Gladys shares with us certain traits we can see in ourselves just how birth experience shapes our beliefs. Below is her article.
“Most of us started our life in a safe, warm and loving environment – our mother’s womb. For nine months, we were supplied with whatever we needed without us asking. Nothing was lacking, nothing was in excess. We were the happiest and safest beings on earth.
Then, one day, the walls around us started to close in, forcing us to worm through a tinny narrow canal. Our head was being squashed, our face squeezed and our shoulders compressed. Suddenly there was bright light, loud noises and extreme coldness. For some of us, we felt excruciating pain on our head as we were being pulled out with something forceful. For others, we might feel the roughness of many huge hands manipulating our little body. Worst were those entangled by their own umbilical cord around their necks. What about those who were heavily drugged and lost the opportune to be born naturally?
Regardless of how we got through that birth process, the next thing that happened had a permanent effect on our life. There was a sudden pain and the next thing we knew it we were grasping for air! Fluid was flowing into our windpipe and we felt suffocated the very first time in our life. It was like dying for the very first time. In our little brain, it was registered, deep breathing = pain = struggling. No wonders, many of us are shallow breathers in life!
Upon birth, the common belief and practice was to clamp and cut the umbilical cord immediately. Some were even smacked at the buttock to have them cry in order to kick-start their lungs. This was how you were welcomed into this world!
Human is an experiential being. We learned through experience and experiences were locked into our subconscious mind for latter references in life. The first experiences in life were so deeply embedded in our subconscious mind that many might not have remembered and yet they ruled our entire life. For example, the belief that: –
- Life is a struggle.
- Life is hard.
- Life is painful.
- The universe is a hostile place.
- People do not understand what I need.
- People hurt me.
- There must be something wrong with me.
Compared to the warmth and comfort in the mother’s womb, no wonder many were still secretly hoping to return there. As we go through life, we may start to notice that there are familiar patterns cropping up every now and then. See if you can identify them to your birth:-
1. Breech Footling
For these babies, the belief is that “I can never do it right”. They would do things the hard way and create a lot of struggle. Even when things are right, they don’t feel they deserve it when things come easily. Hence, they would self-sabotage, would create stuff to make things difficult for themselves, believing that as long as they do the wrong thing or do things the wrong way, they would survive because they did at birth.
2. Transverse Lie
These babies lie horizontally and could not find the way out. They would feel stuck or out of alignment in life. They would look all the time but there is no light in the end of the tunnel. They believe that they too need to go in the wrong direction or they would die.
Forceps babies have issues around manipulation and lots of anger. They might have severe headaches, migraines, neck and spine problem.
All babies have their own natural timing. As these babies were induced, ie. forced to deliver before their timing, in life they feel that people around them are forcing them to do things. They feel angry and resent being forced to do things, often feel out of time. They may want to do something, however they feel that the timing is not right yet. But, people around them are “forcing” them to do it way before their natural timing. This pattern surfaces more often for induced babies than the rest.
5. Quick Births
These babies would often feel that there is never enough time for me. They would feel impatient and can’t wait. They would often rush things in their life because things happen fast to them too.
Premature babies have a problem with touch as they are highly sensitive. They desire love but yet would not allow others to get too close. They would feel insecure, separate and lack of trust, believing that “I am weak, I am helpless, I can’t make it”.
Often people who have a drug or alcohol problem were anesthetized babies. They have a belief that the mother was not there for them. They often need to be in control the whole time.
Caesareans are often passive people. They would feel incapable of handling life on their own as everything is done to them and for them. They just need to be rescued. They deny their sense of touch; hence many cannot even feel their own emotions.
9. Cord Around Neck
These babies might have neck problem, speech problem or asthmatic. They would feel that they have to struggle to stay alive.
Separation produces feelings of guilt. 1st child would feel guilty for leaving one behind while 2nd child would feel rejected and angry. Later in life, the 1st child would have a tough time while the 2nd child would find it easy as they recreate their birth experience in relationships, money, job, etc.
Thanks to Dr Federick Leboyer, a French obstetrician, we now have a choice to deliver our babies in dim light, soothing soft music, warm water and even at the comfort of our homes! Water Birth gives both the mother and the baby a quality birth experience. With maximum respect given to the natural birthing process and the creation of a peaceful atmosphere at the time of birth, the baby can be born with minimum trauma. Waterbirth babies in general are more relaxed and cry little. They are brighter, less afraid, and almost never sick”.
Coming into this world is a “battle” that are often overwhelmed for most babies. In whatever positions the babies are, be it natural birth or medicalised one, more or less have a rather negative experience that, depending on the babies’ own character, may become a stumbling block in their growing up lifes. Needless to say the feeling of insecurity and helplessness that they carried since birth.
I remember an author, a GP Dr. Sarah Buckley in an interview at One World Birth said, “What’s important is how critical the primal period is for mothers and babies and the health and wellbeing of our society. The primal period begins at conception, so everything happens to the mothers during pregnancy, her mental health, her emotional health, her physical health, what she eats, what she does, feeds into the health and wellbeing of her offspring lifelong. Everything that happens to her during her labour and birth feeds into the emotional health, physical health and wellbeing of her child lifelong, What happens during the first year of their life feeds into their health and wellbeing of the child lifelong. If we can begin to understand that and take it seriously, we can change the health and wellbeing of our culture in the generation”.
Wouldn’t that be wonderful if we all know how to prevent birth trauma and bring in the best possible birth experience for the mother and the babies in particular. Most of us born with the accompanied birth traumas or other traumatised experience as a child. So the question is what can we do to remove the emotional blockages, the limiting beliefs, the fear we carried that hinder our progress in life. We may have missed the opportunity to be born without fear or born in a caring and peaceful environment. But we definitely have the options now to create the desired life and learn how to breathe fully and live happily through breathwork.
Breathwork is a conscious connected breathing technique, works to release long suppressed emotions including birth traumas, to deepen our breath, to regulate our breath to bring in the optimum amount of Oxygen and Life Force (known as “Qi”, “Prana” or “Energy”) into our body system in a safe and secure environment. This type of breathing work must be facilitated by a Certified Breathworker.
Ms Gladys Lee conducts regular group or private Breathwork sessions. You can find out more information at your website www.glad2serve.com or join her facebook at www.facebook.com/MasteringTheBreath. For other questions, you can contact her directly at her mobile 9339 0431 or email to email@example.com.
Do share with us how you remove emotional baggage and what is the impact on your life.